On my way home today, I saw an old friend of mine coming out of the same office building, I just had a meeting in. “Haa Bimbo??” – I screamed and continued my usual friendship jabs “where you dey go with your bow leg”. She smiled, “You have not changed Ada” – she said, nonchalantly. “I be chameleon, wey I dey change?” – I replied in pidgin.
There was an awkward second of silence where neither of us said anything before I broke it- “so errrmmm, what are you doing here?” – I asked. “I had an interview here” – she said, this time she half turned to face me, at that moment, it hit me that she was not her usual self, we had not seen each other physically in almost 8 months and the Bimbo I knew, would scream and call you a “whore” once every 10 seconds. “You fucking whore” was her favourite phrase but here we were having a totally awkward chat.
The boring conversation went on for another two minutes until I couldn’t take it anymore. “OUT WITH IT, WHATEVER THE FUCK IT IS THAT TOOK YOUR SPARK AWAY, JUST COME OUT AND SAY IT ALREADY!” – I was almost yelling.
She turned fully and said, “my husband left me for his colleague, they relocated to Canada together and now I have to cater for 2 children all by myself. I have been job hunting but Ada no jobs, Life is so unfair and I am just tired”
Long story short, I now have 2 kids and a live in partner(non-sexual)
The moral of this post is not Men are Scum like most of you think, (my sugar daddy has been nice recently, so i can’t be on this train😂😊) it is that people have been wired not to share their problems, some are afraid that you might see them as a burden. if a friend shows significant decline in their mannerism, its your duty as a friend to ask and get to the bottom of it.
My close friends know I don’t take “I AM FINE” as the answer to anything, it’s a fake response that has been ingrained into our heads as a default answer to Everything. •You are in the hospital: How are you? You say I am Fine… Well obviously you are not.
I know what you are thinking, people are trying to be optimistic but loosing your mind just because you want to be optimistic should not be the case.
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